It has been called to my attention that I move fast; expressions like, “the grass doesn’t grow long underneath your feet” are ones I hear frequently. Until recently, I was proud of that — I thought it was a GREAT personality attribute. It wasn’t until a run in with a venomous scorpion fish (that penetrated my foot deeply in five different spots) that I realized I needed to start to slow down. This self-discovery started as I was healing from the wound and ensuing infection. With time to sit and heal, I started to think about the urgency with which I do everything and decided it needed to change. I wanted to slow it down, think more about cause and effect, and give myself the necessary time and space to make the right decisions.
Sounds easy, right? Well it wasn’t for me. For the past year I have had to constantly remind myself that what I am doing in the present, no matter what it is, is the right thing to be doing — as long as I am feeling nourished and the people around me are all feeling equally attended to. It sounds strange, but this one notion has helped me focus and has helped me slow down. Here are three techniques I use to help me live my life to the fullest each day and leave me feeling satisfied and complete when I shut my eyes at night.
- Focus on the important and not the urgent. Dig deep inside and make a list of what is really important to you. Make sure you review the list with someone you trust. Now pick one or two of those things that are non-negotiable to have in your life each day. Urgent things are not always the important ones and it’s OK to say no sometimes.
- Talk slower, breath deeper and make sure you laugh and smile continually through your day. We tend to move too quickly when we feel rushed or are running late, but If you can just slow it down enough to “check in” with your non-negotiable needs you’ll find you can get where you need to be in a more relaxed and presentable state. In turn, you feel more peaceful and content – the more you can do this, the more peaceful and content you feel – it builds up!
- Enjoy the small things. What do I mean by this? It’s easy…. the world has gotten so BIG, and our digital revolution has made it too easy to get lost on Facebook or any social media site thinking you need more, that someone is happier than you, that someone has more than you. But if you look around the room you’re in and take a quick life inventory, you will find you have everything you need. Select something simple that you have in your life that is good (satisfying work, a partner that loves you, your kids, your dog) then stay focused on thing and the rest of the world will start to feel GREAT!